idea vs reality

A friend expressed sadness over a break-up with a partner and when I asked what he was missing, potential was the key word that popped out of the mouth. Blindates often invoke anticipation for a relationship not a meal. Anticipation robs us of being in the moment while setting us up for disappointment. Taking in the moment and seeing your companion (dinner or life companion) for who he is, is a true fresh start. Concepts are not better or worse then reality, they are different. How do we know that life does not have a better plan then we do for ourselves?