nice

A friend asked me how I can be nice to people who are not nice to me.

This question has been a source of mind marination. Isn't the question to black and white? I choose to believe friendships are about patterns and if a negative pattern persists during the confines of a friendship then it may force a re-negotiation of the social contract.

I would not want be defined by individual comments and feel it is only fair to focus on my friend's motives then their negative verbal messages on a their bad days.

Pause,Reflect,Act