Eighty

I "ran" into a woman from my past.  She asked about me...I told her that I only remember people's positive behavior towards me and not the bad...which can set me up for further mistreatment...

(YOU KNOW TYPICAL SMALL TALK)

she responded on point: I still find it hard and I am 80

It gave me the gift of security for those moments when I 80everyone else has the hang of it