Have to be Experienced

My mother is dead.   This classification effects my reactions when I hear discussions between mothers and their daughters.

I will stop myself from blurting out, " if your mother wants to hang out with you,...go do it...if she needs help moving a heavy object ..go do it...if she wants help unloading the car for a donation drop.... go do it...

My best memories of my mother are unloading 100 books, into a collection receptacle, from her car...

observing and laughing on her couch or clearing out her storage area because the items would trigger

memories and words....

I keep my mouth shut because this may be something to have to be experienced not told