Grateful Query

I will call people and report a behavior of a person that crossed my path.   It is usually some behavior that means nothing in the formulation of my life's goals....

Just at the point when I am asking the listener, "why do you think that person  refused to go to the shorter line" or "she does not even know  that she is engaging in a specific pattern of male selection"

The listener will pointedly ask, "why are we talking about this"

and I will always  be grateful for the query