Calculating my Self Compass

A relative from my youth would frequently tell me that I expected to much from people. This would inbalance my requests of behavior from the people in my adult life. I would waver between asking to little and being agressive in what I required of my friends. I have,yet, to find a happy medium..I am confident that I am on the road to finding peace.

Shooting the Messenger

A male aquaintance and I would fall into life discussions. We fell out of talking when our schedules changed. He contacted me and revealed that he missed me. I could not match his emotion. Declaring him brave while awakening to the fact that it is more about the teller of the message then the message

Perhaps Not

A man called me to arrange a blind date. We exchanged "get to know you" stories. I introduced each story with "are you ready"..perhaps he was not I never heard from him again

Good Words Coming at the Right Times

Getting a text from an outgoing friend surprised me. She shared that my friendly voice messages were very meaningful and helpful to her. Ironicly,I almost did not contact her because she is a very social person with a vast support system. Her teaching is that good words are almost always needed and come at the right time

All Else..Blather

People will contact me and give me "friendly suggestions"on how to be different or question my inner voiced messages. I must realize that the only voice I must listen to is my own inner one..other voiced messages that do not feel right are to be considered blather

Becoming Lighter

I was raised by a relative that did not answer me. Being raised this way has resulted in my reacting when I observe people not answering other people. My workplace is a room with cubicles and people frequently verbally reach out to their co-workers over the temporary walls. When people did not answer..I would walk over to the desk of the non-answering co-worker and ask him to respond. Last night,I began to think this is becoming a lot of work ... reminded myself that I have the choice to become lighter and let this behavior go.. Finding the most important answer

Blind Reactions

I, reported a paycheck not being in the mail, to a friend. When I finished the report with,"I guess it was forgotten to be mailed", she asked why I had to assign motive.

I was completely unaware that I was doing that. It is a gift when my eyes are opened
to my blind reactions.

With Myself

I am being hit with the same question among my potential gentleman callers. The dominant question is about my most significant past relationship. I must confess that my most important relationship is and was with myself.

Retract

Feeling like a rare gift and lampooning myself are not united behaviors. I have begun to verbally retract, any easy houmer made at my expense, prompty after execution to the listener. I fear that I may be able to retract my words from my conversation..not from my image. Where there is change, there is hope.

Dreamy

Complementing behavior has the power to guide people to take more positive life routes. Hearing an impressive gent state that he would like to be considered dreamy during a recent word exchange,(and he totally is) lead to my clear arrival that complementing carries,for me, the same weight as a religion or a declared belief system may have in another person's life. A friend called me,today, to discuss high school. I verbally wondered how my self- defeating behavior would have been altered if one adult pulled me aside and informed me of my worthiness of respect from others and myself. Pointing out people's value can change lives..try it!

Selfish?

I was thinking about a woman I used to know. On the surface, she appeared very demanding and selfish. When I got to know her, I discovered that she craved to be loved and affirmed. Perhaps selfish people travel the earth with a profoundly deep need to be loved..yet do not trust the effectiveness of a more direct communication route

Old Charges

I was verbally asigning bad traits, to my personality, in a teasing manner with a friend. when the friend departed, I realized my negative evaluations were not applicable anymore. They are old charges..I contacted the friend and retracted the statements. He agreed with me.

Brain Pool

I have moments when a primal need to cry will come over to me like an ocean wave over a sandbar I will grapple for a reason for the emotional soaking..nothing will swim in my brain pool..then a lighthouse will appear..bottom lining emotions is not mandatory..acting natural is..

Lightbulb!

It was suggested to me that my chosen ways to reduce anxiety may create anxiety in the people that surround me. LIGHTBULB!